WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR HAPPINESS?
If you want to learn How to be happy you must first understand something. It’s no one else’s job to make you happy and to force that responsibility on a person is a simple act of selfishness. Take this advice from a person who has made this mistake countless times. It’s best to get to know you, and then you’ll see that it really doesn’t matter where you are in life or who you’re with. This place, person or thing should only be an additive to the happiness already on the inside of you, not a replacement of happiness. This mindset in turn will create better relationships for anyone!
GET TO KNOW YOU, THEN YOU’LL KNOW HAPPINESS
You’d be surprised at the number of grown adults that know absolutely nothing about who they are or what they want out of life. I will be the first to raise a hand to that; “Guilty as charged”! So, instead of finding happiness within themselves, they look for people or things to fill them with happiness. This only creates the temporary emotion of happiness, instead of being filled with an eternal happiness.
I remember reading a book that taught me how to discover happiness without a spouse, family, or temporary pleasures. I was told to imagine my life without the people who brought me temporary happiness and picture myself being alone. What kinds of activities would i be doing, and where would i be.
As i’m visualizing myself traveling to different beaches in my bathing suit alone, i began to feel overwhelmed with peace and joy. But you see, the point wasn’t to say you need to do away with people. The point is that you don’t need people to make you happy! And i realized that i don’t even need “STUFF” to make me happy. Imagine yourself being on an island alone with nothing or no one. Just a sand and a body of water.
If you had to live on this for the rest of your life, would you be happy? Most of us would say no and that we would probably die being miserable. But why? Is it because we have nothing or no one? I’m sure that would be your reason. But i say this to you. Happiness is can be created in moments of loneliness. Loneliness helps you discover things about yourself you didn’t even know existed.
HOW TO BE CONTENT
So, how do i become content? Being content creates patience within. Ever here the saying, life is what you make it? It’s absolutely true. Happiness comes in the moments we create it. If i were on an island alone with nothing; the only way i could be happy is to first become content with what i have, who i am, and where i am.
You must discover what makes you happy and do those things alone. This is a great exercise for self care. You will discover that happiness is inside of you. It doesn’t matter what you do in life, what career you chose, what relationship you are in; happiness must come from within. To get to this place of internal happiness one must accept who they are. But what if you don’t like who you are; you ask?
Well i say to you again, accept who you are. And i don’t mean who you’ve become due to negative events that occurred in your life. I mean who you were before you allowed life to change you for the worse. Once you discover that part, next you can work on being content. Did you know that content just means being in the state of peaceful happiness.
So, if we are not content it is possible that we desire too much of things we don’t need! One mistake i made was focusing on what others have that i desired! I learned that we are all different and different make us unique. Just because i love to watch drawing videos doesn’t make me an artist, but its just what i like to watch. You must embrace your originality at all times. And last but not least, Find something that keeps you at peace within.
I remember feeling so alone and empty inside because i felt that i lost everything valuable to me and hit rock bottom. I thought i lost all the things that made me happy, but after reading self help books i had a sudden wake up call. Nothing or no one can still my joy! I often refer to an old song i heard my mother sing as a child “This joy that i have the world didn’t give it and the world can’t take it away“.
Its very true! You cant let nothing or no one steal your joy. I like to read bible verses about joy as a constant reminder. I also found and discovered that my personal relationship with Jesus has given me an everlasting internal peace. One scripture i like to read is Psalm 16:11 ” Thou wilt shew me the path of life: in thy presence is fulness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore. Who doesn’t want everlasting peace?
Am i forcing my spiritual life on you by speaking of Jesus? Absolutely not! However, i only want to encourage you to find an outlet that will keep you at peace within your self. For me its faith, for you it may be something different. But if you want to improve you must try!
There are also several self help books you can read to help you. But whatever you do, please do not force your need for happiness onto the responsibility of another individual because the harsh truth is this; ITS NOT THEIR RESPONSIBILITY.
Remember, how to find happiness is your responsibility. You must learn WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR HAPPINESS, GET TO KNOW YOU, THEN YOU’LL KNOW HAPPINESS, learn HOW TO BE CONTENT, and discover PEACE WITHIN.
Then you will know happiness and happiness will become you!LB
Get to know you, then you’ll know happiness.LB.
SELF-CARE BOOKS & COUNSELING :
1.Free E-book (Believe in Yourself)
2.Free E-book (20 Self Exploration Exercises)
3.Marriage Fitness with Mort Fertel (Fix Your Marriage- Free)
4.Breaking Bad Habits Journal
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